Monday, November 8, 2010

Our Wishes

As many of you know, I will be induced on Wednesday, November 10th.  We are scheduled to start the induction process at 7:30a.m.  This will be a very exciting day, yet a very scary day.  Inductions can take a long time and can also result in emergency c-section if they don't go as planned.  We were lucky with our induction last year and everything went well. 

Last year, we allowed visitors before Ben's birth.  We were grateful to have visitors who cared about us and that were concerned for us.  Having to deliver a stillborn child is not something anybody wants to do.  This year, Jason and I are asking for something a little different.  We are asking to not have any visitors before Mason is born.  We want the laboring process to be something between the two of us.  It is especially difficult for me to have others in the labor room with me and I'm asking for everyone to please respect the wish of privacy. 

We will keep family and friends updated with what is going on.  We ask that we do not receive a lot of phone calls and texts.  If something is happening, WE will let you know.  I want to be able to relax through this process, and receiving non-stop phone calls can be very distracting

After our loss last year, I have connected with other loss parents online.  We discuss our birth stories a lot and have given each other support throughout the year.  One thing I have learned is that you are never safe.  Something CAN happen during delivery- and just because you're so close, does not mean you'll have a healthy child in your arms at the end of everything.  For this reason, I am being very cautious with my emotions.

Many of you may think I'm being stubborn by not answering my phone when you call or not answering your text message.  Please respect the fact that this is still very hard for me, even though we are so close.  As I stated before- WE will let you know if something is happening.  We are not trying to hide anything from anyone, but just ask for the respect of privacy for our family. 

We are very thankful that we have family and friends that care and are concerned about us.  Please continue to think about us and support us, but also respect our wishes. 

AND...... the countdown has begun!!! 


  1. You are not being stubborn....and I think it is great to put your wishes out there! You do what is right for you and Jason! CANNOT wait to hear when the little guy is here and more importantly to hear that is is HEALTHY!! It will be such a relief for everyone, and believe me, I know all the emotions are you feelings right now, and its ok!!!!!!!!!! You have been through a lot in the last year, and this will be an emotional time, but know that is normal! You have many people thinking and praying for a smooth delivery for you and a perfect beautiful baby boy!!!

  2. I hope you get that special time with Mason! You're in my thoughts!!